When in a relationship, it’s impossible for both partners to agree
on everything. There will be some clashing of different opinions, views
and thoughts.
This is where compromise and sacrifice both come in to play. Though
these two relationship elements tend to be a struggle to achieve for
some people, it’s worth the battle in the end when both partners become
victors.
Celebrity mental health professional, known simply as Dr. Phil,
explains why people hate to not get what they want and why compromise
is important.
“Manage your expectations,” Dr. Phil said. “What makes people upset
is not what happens in their [life], but when their expectations are
violated. Be realistic.”
For those who may find difficulty with this process, take heed to
the following simple steps which we’re sure will help you in your
relationship.
See where the differences lie. If you and your
partner are having a disagreement, the best thing to do is to figure
out where your opinions vary before things get worse. Remember, it is
not about who is right, but what solution will benefit both sides.
Try to find common ground. When you and your
partner know where the disagreement starts, you can figure out how each
perspective is the same. Though you may not always agree, it’s the
things we have in common with our significant others that brings us
together—sometimes. Other times, it’s the fact that he or she has
traits that are different that fuels the attraction. Find out, in the
given situation, what those commonalities are. It will help change the
mood of the disagreement when you know you have common ground with one
another.
Take turns with the compromise or sacrifice. Figure
out what you’re willing to give up for the other person. Even if the
disagreement is small–and possibly not even worth the battle in the
first place– it’s important to take what you’ve learned from examining
your differences and similarities, and explore what options are open
for you so everyone wins–and loses–equally.
“A solid relationship is based on an underlying friendship and is a
function of how well it meets the needs of the two people involved,”
Dr. Phil said. “Find out your partner’s needs.”
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