Commandment #9: Love vs. Lust

                The confusion between love and lust can make for a fatal attraction.
                Once the lust dies, the person can see that they actually didn’t love the person that they were with.
                It’s true that the beginning of any relationship begins with the physical attraction.
However, shortly afterwards, you can become attracted to your partner mentally and emotionally.
                If you don’t wait for the relationship to blossom into a deep emotional connection, your relationship won’t progress.
                So that leaves the question: What is love?
                “Love is like the wind,” Landon Carter (Shane West), a character in “A Walk to Remember,” said. “You cannot see it but you can always feel it!”
                Love is an intangible element that drives the bond between two people.
                It’s when you feel that you cannot live without that person and you long to be with them—when he or she is the only person that you think about.
                Because of love, people go through battles and hardships, but a relationship has the potential to grow into something powerful through love.
                “My friends have told me that if I had to question whether I truly loved [a guy], then it probably means I didn't,” a blogger from Datingish.com recalled. “‘When you're in love, you know it,’ they declared.”
                On the contrary, lust can cloud a person’s better judgment.
                 “Curiosity is the lust of the mind,” Thomas Hobbes, English philosopher, said.
But, to us, it’s lust that’s the curiosity of the mind.
                When people lust, they are curious about that person’s physical abilities to satisfy their needs or cravings.
                They are curious to see if that person can live up to their standards.
Do not let your fiery desires take the driver’s seat in your life.
                Lust will destroy you if you let it.
It will break your heart into two pieces and leave the crumbs at the door.
                It will hit it and quit it and then leave you stranded.
                If you lust after someone and then grow feelings for that person, that partner may not feel the same way.
                It is better to find someone who you can connect with on a deeper level than it is to fall in love with the sexual performance. In other words, don’t get attached to the sex.
                In the end, you protect yourself from despair, pain and sexually transmitted diseases.
                If you find yourself caught between love and lust, know how to distinguish between the two, and realize which one it is you want to pursue.

Love demonstrates patience; it displays kindness
It can make a person feel like gold when it’s at its finest
But, lust complements the body and takes care of its needs
It takes over, it devours, and it feeds
The mind with many thoughts of pleasure
And dominates the heart’s loving treasure
To get rid of it, one has to be smart
One has to treat the body like a valued piece of art
And not let love get lost deep in an ocean
Or be harmed and consumed by lust’s potion

(Ending poem by Amanda Usher.)

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Commandment #1: Trust Wholeheartedly

Trust. 

This is a word that requires time. It requires patience, as well as effort.

True enough, events happen that make you lose your trust in someone. Once a relationship has lost trust, it becomes pretty difficult to revive it.

But through honest and open communication, you can learn to trust again, only if you forgive your partner and move forward to a happier future.

Not putting your all into moving away from those hurtful experiences can hinder not only yourself internally, but your relationship, as well.

You could harbor resentment, which leads to misplaced trust.

The amount of effort you put into the relationship is equal to the quality of the relationship as a whole.

The worst thing you can do is not forgive and be left with regrets later.

“[D]on’t let your past experiences keep you from putting your heart out there again,” says a rep. for Seventeen Magazine.

Experience is meant to teach you lessons, not hold you back.

Trust is a two-way street—in order to get over the bigger problems, you and your partner must both be willing to rebuild your trust.

Trust is like a game of hide and seek, it’s still there waiting to be found—you just gotta’ go look for it!

Remember:

A person that cannot trust is a person scorned
A relationship without trust is one that will be mourned
It is a necessity for both sides of the human race
It is something that needs a few moments of pure and sheer grace.

(Ending poem by Amanda Usher.)

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10 Commandments of Love

1. Thou shall trust wholeheartedly.
2. Thou shall practice proper communication with his or her partner.
3. Thou shall listen with gentle ears.
4. Thou shall be faithful.
5. Thou shall play fair.
6. Thou shalt not practice verbal, physical, emotional or mental abuse.
7. Thou shalt not be dishonest.
8. Thou shalt not allow little disagreements to overshadow love.
9. Thou shalt not mistake love for lust.
10. Thou shalt not abandon his or her partner in his or her time of need.

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